Your first paragraph is victim blaming. I know several women who grew up in Europe and have ethnicities from various regions in Asia and they experience a lot of racist sexual harassment from strangers on the street. They have no misconceptions about white men. Most avoid white men at all cost.

Browsing lemmy as a marginalised person is very frequently not a comfortable experience :/

Asian women generally face a lot more sexual harassment in western countries than white women because of the idea people have that they’re submissive and ‘traditional’ and won’t defend themselves. If you can’t imagine being fetishised is a bad thing you have serious issues with empathising.

Dating someone who fetishises you means they don’t care about your personality or other traits except for the trait they fetishise. They’ll try to fit you into a racial mould you probably don’t belong to just to satisfy their weird fantasies. They do not care that they hurt you in the process because you’re not a person to them.