Asian women generally face a lot more sexual harassment in western countries than white women because of the idea people have that they’re submissive and ‘traditional’ and won’t defend themselves. If you can’t imagine being fetishised is a bad thing you have serious issues with empathising.
Dating someone who fetishises you means they don’t care about your personality or other traits except for the trait they fetishise. They’ll try to fit you into a racial mould you probably don’t belong to just to satisfy their weird fantasies. They do not care that they hurt you in the process because you’re not a person to them.
Asian women generally face a lot more sexual harassment in western countries than white women because of the idea people have that they’re submissive and ‘traditional’ and won’t defend themselves.
I believe that Asian women tend to think European men will be more progressive, more respectful than Asian men, maybe letting their guard down a bit. That’s very bad that all women have to stay so vigilant all the time. Systemic misogyny is still very much a thing even in the most progressive western countries…
Anyway, I can give a small personal anecdote as a white European man, while I was dating using dating apps in Europe. The only women I ever managed to meet for a date were all Asians ! As an average looking guy, I gave every women on the platform equals chances. I guess I am not really “the type” European women are looking for, but somehow it seems I am popular among Asian women. I am now happily married for several years with one of this women :)
Your first paragraph is victim blaming. I know several women who grew up in Europe and have ethnicities from various regions in Asia and they experience a lot of racist sexual harassment from strangers on the street. They have no misconceptions about white men. Most avoid white men at all cost.
Sorry, this was not my intention to put the responsibility on women. What I wanted to say is that it’s a terrible situation that all women are constantly exposed to abuse, and there is no safe situation for them in particular when it come to dating.
Asian women generally face a lot more sexual harassment in western countries than white women because of the idea people have that they’re submissive and ‘traditional’ and won’t defend themselves. If you can’t imagine being fetishised is a bad thing you have serious issues with empathising.
Dating someone who fetishises you means they don’t care about your personality or other traits except for the trait they fetishise. They’ll try to fit you into a racial mould you probably don’t belong to just to satisfy their weird fantasies. They do not care that they hurt you in the process because you’re not a person to them.
I believe that Asian women tend to think European men will be more progressive, more respectful than Asian men, maybe letting their guard down a bit. That’s very bad that all women have to stay so vigilant all the time. Systemic misogyny is still very much a thing even in the most progressive western countries…
Anyway, I can give a small personal anecdote as a white European man, while I was dating using dating apps in Europe. The only women I ever managed to meet for a date were all Asians ! As an average looking guy, I gave every women on the platform equals chances. I guess I am not really “the type” European women are looking for, but somehow it seems I am popular among Asian women. I am now happily married for several years with one of this women :)
Your first paragraph is victim blaming. I know several women who grew up in Europe and have ethnicities from various regions in Asia and they experience a lot of racist sexual harassment from strangers on the street. They have no misconceptions about white men. Most avoid white men at all cost.
Sorry, this was not my intention to put the responsibility on women. What I wanted to say is that it’s a terrible situation that all women are constantly exposed to abuse, and there is no safe situation for them in particular when it come to dating.
I’ve suffered my whole life from ladies fetishing me just because of my race. it’s not like I’m even a person literally shaking rn
Browsing lemmy as a marginalised person is very frequently not a comfortable experience :/