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Cake day: August 16th, 2023

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  • The state I was born in has a public birth record, everything about me was already on the internet before I was an adult. I started trying to get my online info removed as an adult but it is like a game of whack-a-mole plus I get the patronizing: “all info we have is public record, we’re not doing anything wrong.” Then when I vote, the voting registry is public so even more up-to-date info of me gets leaked online 🫠 I froze my credit since I’m paranoid.

    As for the government, well they already have all of my info, not much I can do about that. They’ve been spying on their citizens for decades, their surveillance expands more and more as time passes on.


  • I recommend against Hawaii. It’s not exactly self sustaining since there are too many people living there. Housing/rent is crazy high so there are many homeless. Everything is much more expensive. Jobs can be hard to find. The islands are sinking. Storms still hit every season. Depending on the island, you may be dealing with volcanic eruptions and vog. And I do believe their coral reefs are bleaching. It sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. Then factor in the locals, they only want locals living there and to restore their Hawaiian Kingdom, #GoHomeHaole. Best to pick somewhere else.


  • I don’t think they are getting paid, but they are from lemmy.world. They are known for open signups that invite trolls, power mods, conservatives, etc. The instance has a lot of US people, the kind that think democrats are leftists. I see a lot of what I didn’t like about reddit in lemmy.world.

    Tankies are the biggest problem, even though most instances have defederated from them, and here we have a community dedicated to screenshots of their community where we can dunk on them even though dunking is actually really bad since tankies do it /s. By that logic shouldn’t the CSAM instances be the biggest problem? Sure most instances defederated them but they exist, along with far right instances.

    EDIT: Nevermind, OP has spent weeks complaining about tankies. There is no getting through to that. I think lemmy has more worse problems than tankies. Also meanwhile on grad welcomes conservatives but it’s all good because at least they aren’t tankies right.


  • Nah, I’ve got a zoomer relative that has learned helplessness around computers. They have their own computer for gaming and need me to hold their hand through everything. I tell them to web search, they say they don’t understand what anything means, so I have to hold their hand through web searching to fix their problem. If something doesn’t work from steam when they double click it, they can’t figure it out. They get an error message at any point and their only solution is to bug someone else about it. I refuse to solve their problem without telling them to web search it, that is how you are supposed to learn. It’s super annoying so I started telling them “idk, google it.” They still bug others instead now.

    I also have a zoomer friend older than my relative that is also a PC gamer, they are slightly better but still need people to guide them through screen share.


  • Wikipedia lists this as the original:

    When the Nazis came for the communists, I kept quiet; I wasn’t a communist.

    When they came for the trade unionists, I kept quiet; I wasn’t a trade unionist.

    When they locked up the Social Democrats, I kept quiet; I wasn’t a social democrat.

    When they locked up the Jews, I kept quiet; I wasn’t a Jew.

    When they came for me, there was no one left to protest.

    Original German

    Als die Nazis die Kommunisten holten, habe ich geschwiegen; ich war ja kein Kommunist.

    Als sie die Gewerkschafter holten, habe ich geschwiegen; ich war ja kein Gewerkschafter.

    Als sie die Sozialdemokraten einsperrten, habe ich geschwiegen; ich war ja kein Sozialdemokrat.

    Als sie die Juden einsperrten, habe ich geschwiegen; ich war ja kein Jude.

    Als sie mich holten, gab es keinen mehr, der protestieren konnte.






  • I’ve been waiting for this for so long. It’s no secret there’s mostly men on lemmy and most things gravitate towards them. At this time, I would not recommend lemmy to any of my friends who are women. I don’t think lemmy really appeals to women or has much to offer them. I hesitate to share perspectives as a woman because I know there’s a big chance it isn’t going to be taken well and won’t be welcome.

    NSFW women sex stuff

    I was downvoted before for saying I didn’t enjoy penetration. I said it hurts without lube but even with it, it doesn’t feel enjoyable and that vibrators are the only thing that feels good. I talked to another woman in that thread who enjoyed penetration and she got upvoted but I got downvoted and we weren’t even arguing, just talking about sex as a woman (it hurts for me, it does not hurt for her, turns out we had more in common beyond that). I’ve never been judged by other women for this (friends or partners), men who are my partners usually have a problem with it and I’ve had men tell me they don’t want me to have/use sex toys at all. If I talked about this on TwoX, others would either be in a similar boat or offer support. I miss being able to talk to other women online about this stuff.


  • This is like a yes and no. There is a lot of communist talk, I’ve added comrade to my dictionary thanks to hexbear because I like the sound of comrade more than friend or buddy. They are very pro-Palenstine and hate Zionism. They also don’t find Ukraine too favorable. But there are disabled, mutual aid, movie nights, lots of shit posting, dunking, and as you said trans and em_poc communities. There is a shock sometimes, like on 9/11. They hate the US, this is ok for me because I also hate our government. You can wish death on execs/wealthy assholes without getting banned. There is a culture, lots of emoji with esoteric meanings, and you will get banned for saying certain things like comparing China’s president to Winnie the Pooh. Generally they favor China to an extent and the Soviet Union to an extent. But you will also get banned for transphobia, they are protective of their trans users/comrades. And they are pro-vegan, anything with animal products needs a content warning. Many things need CW, but I am ok with that. They also introduced me to Disco Elysium, which is an amazing game. Hexbear is … unique.