

I recommend posting in [email protected], really helpful community there (although I’d refrain from specifically mentioning piracy).
I’ve heard Hetzner is quick to crack down on piracy. Some VPS hosters advertise that they don’t acknowledge DMCA requests, such as Njalla and 1984 (I’ve never used these, just found them by searching Lemmy). If you want to go with a traditional hoster I’ll echo what the other person said and recommend Gluetun to bind your container to a VPN service.
For security, if it’s just for you and your partner I’d just setup a Wireguard server on the VPS and tunnel into it that way. You’ll have to setup the VPN on any device you want to access your server with, which is a hassle, but I’d much prefer the small hassle than the constant worrying of hosting publicly-accessible services. Otherwise, I’d setup something like Crowdsec or Fail2Ban.
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